Divorce For Men, She Filed and You've Been Served, What Now?

By Renee Pullman

With divorce for men it is reality that in 2 out of three cases the wife will file and the man will be served divorce papers. This is a strategic advantage for her because many times the judge will grant motions in this filing. You may be accused of abuse and put out of your home.

If this has happened to you take heart, it is only a temporary set back if you act quickly and in the right way. Being a man, you are at a disadvantage, in most courts presumption goes in favor of the wife. Now you have a second burden in that she has filed first. At this point it is probably best for you to have an attorney. This is not the end of your participation in your divorce however. There is no one who will care more about what happens next and in the future than you. Don't trust this just to your divorce attorney. These people are busy and things will go undone. You need to learn the divorce tactics and strategies that are being used against you, and you need to learn what needs to be done to counter them and manage your case. Charges made against you need to be countered. You cannot let untruth stand unanswered.

Here are three tips that can save you not only a great deal of money but that can take some of the pain away from the divorce process.

1. When you look for your attorney be aware that women lawyers can be some of the most aggressive when fighting for their clients. So just because your wife has waged war against you don't think you need a man to counter her.


2. Keep your head in the game. Her attorney has attacked and the purpose, beyond strategic advantage is to get you off-balance and angry. When you are angry you are more apt to do stupid things. These things will not go well for you in court and could wind you up in jail. She and her attorney will probably celebrate that achievement. So if pain and anger wiles up inside of you, you have to be ready to counter it with something. Take no physical action but direct all of this negative energy into learning the divorce process and what is possible to attain.


3. Expect a positive result. One thing to realize is you really don't want her. Sometimes marriages end amicably but more often there are issues and betrayal that create negativity between you and your wife. This can hurt and make you think the world has ended but I promise you it has not. I promise you that there will be a good life for you on the other side of this divorce if you maintain expectancy and manage your case. If things begin to weigh on you, take a moment and go forward in time and see your great new life on the other side of this thing. Remember that you will be bringing all the things you need from this marriage to help you achieve it. See it, believe it. Wayne Dyer said, "you must believe it before you see it." Believe it this is some of the most sound advice you will ever get.

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A Man Facing Divorce Can Lose Everything, Discover Divorce For Men Tactics and Take the Advantage

By Renee Pullman

Men facing divorce have a built in disadvantage, they face a bias and often it is difficult for men to overcome it. The bias is mostly cultural but there are also laws and procedures that give the edge to women in a divorce. For men, divorce means built in disadvantages, but disadvantages that you can overcome with tactics and strategy. You may discover that not only is there a cultural bias against men in the courts but also outside, your friends and neighbors. Still there are many good strategies and tactics for men in divorce and you can win this thing.

Just because you are divorcing you haven't gotten away from dealing with your soon to be ex, a big tactic that the other side may bring against you is doing things just to rattle you. They want to keep you off balance and if possible get you to do something stupid that will cost you in court. So... keep your head together as you find them taking trivial things and blowing them out of proportion. Do you really want the family dog enough to spend thousands fighting over him?

Stay away from trivial it will cost you big time and it will take your attention from the things you really care about. So know your outcome, know what it is that you want. You want to avoid needing to have the last word. Don't argue about anything, express yourself but avoid the anger and turmoil. Remember you don't need the last word on things as you negotiate, you need to have the last word in court.

By the way - an interesting statistic - most people start up their divorces during football season, go figure.

Next, stay positive, if you get off into depression, if you get down and stop believing in your power to turn the divorce in your direction will cause you to not focus and pay attention to the things you want from the divorce. That can cost you big time. You've got to remember that no one cares more about the outcome of your divorce than you. You have to stay involved, and not avoiding involvement in your divorce. Your lawyer is busy, don't trust it just to him. Make sure you stay involved and keep managing things. You are the one with a new life on the other side of divorce and you are the one to insure that you win the things that you need to make it happen successfully.

Divorce for men is full of pitfalls but you can learn the methods and tactics to prevail. Gain the insider information to come out of divorce court without losing everything.

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Divorce Advice For Men - Five Things to Do When It's Time to End the Relationship

By Renee Pullman

Marriage is intended to be forever. I suppose most of us who marry never expect it to end by divorce. The best divorce advice for men is, learn to be realistic. Half of all marriages end by divorce, and 2 to 1 it is the wife who files.

The partner who files first, particularly if it is unexpected, has a strategic advantage. If you are the partner who has been trying to rebuild the relationship and your partner files for divorce then this can be particularly devastating. If this has happened to you, you need to get past it - it is time to end the relationship. Get past the depression and disappointment and find the right kind of divorce advice to allow you to gain the intuitive.

Here are some things to do.

1. Learn to say positive things to yourself. Often when a divorce hits, it hits self-esteem hardest. You need to counter this with positive things to say for and about yourself. Learn about affirmations. ´Emile Coué popularized affirmations with his famous "everyday in every way I'm getting better and better." You can start with that one and find others to build you up.


2. Realize that you will have a life on the other side of the divorce. You need to start planning it now. Don't wait and see what you will have left, but rather plan the life you want with the things from the marriage that you want to keep and move forward learning the tactics to keep them.


3. You need to find a way to quickly separate your finances. It is very possible that your soon to be Ex will run up credit cards and clean out bank accounts. You need to open your own accounts and close the old ones.


4. Don't agree to move out of the marital house if it is one of the things you intend to keep. Agreements made for expediency tend to be looked on as final by some divorce courts. Divorce courts don't want to spend time dealing with things that are set. So find another room to move into if necessary or let her move out.


5. If at all possible find a way to tell the children together with your spouse. Let them understand that your feelings for them have not changed. Let them know they are still in a stable place in their lives.

Keep your eyes on where you want to be at the end of the divorce process. This will set up a mechanism in you mind that will help spot the strategic divorce openings and tactics that you need to take.

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Divorce Advice For Men - What If You Really Just Want to Save Your Marriage?

By Renee Pullman

If your wife has told you she is thinking about a divorce, my first thought is you need to keep on your toes so you can protect your interests if you need to. I have written about doing this extensively and if you click my author name link above you will find lots of information on winning your divorce.

This time however I want to talk to the men who are actively trying to save their marriages. My heart goes out to you, it is not the easiest position to be in. Nevertheless here are some tips, and if you keep reading to the end you'll find a link to a great system for rebuilding relationships and winning your love back.

1. You will probably only get one shot at this so tread lightly, don't try to rush things. She is angry, probably for something you did or didn't do. She may need some time to get past this. Don't lay out some big logical sounding plan, emotions are at work here and you need to find a way to tap back into some of the good things that have existed between the two of you in the past.


2. Don't try to bribe her by sending special presents and flowers. Anyone can send flowers -- better to put your efforts into a handwritten, sincere, and heartfelt note with the thought of trying to tap into some of the good times the two of you had. The idea is not to sell her that these times are too good to throw away, or that we'll have them again: rather just bring them up to do battle by themselves with whatever it is that has brought the two of you to this point. Be honest -- feel the words you write and do not try to manipulate.


3. I'll say again, don't try to rush her. Whatever has happened between the two of you has to soften in her mind. But, do be sure to let her know that she is important to you and you want to keep her in your life.


4. If you are separated -- don't you dare stalk her. Don't make plans to always try to be where you think she will be. This is a losing strategy and it will just further inflame her feelings and alienate her. If you do wind up in divorce court these kinds of actions can cost you big time. I do want to mention again, particularly because things have progressed to separation, you want to be sure that you are protecting yourself if the divorce process is in play (see the first paragraph).

John Gray said it in the title to his famous book: "Men Are From Mars And Women Are From Venus." I want to tell you again not to try to lay out some totally logical argument as the reason for the two of you to stay married. This is a mans approach and believe me, it won't go very far no matter what the logic. The place the battle to save your marriage will be won or lost is how well you can tap into and shape her emotions.

Divorce advice for men who just want to save their marriages: there are a lot of psychological methods that can be used to successfully restore your relationship and I'm not talking about manipulation. Learn these methods and use them and you can save your marriage.

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